Valentine’s Day as a Single Twenty-Something

TEE: Revolve | SKIRT: Revole | EARRINGS: Kendra Scott 

I feel like most Valentine’s blog posts I read talk about relationships. I wish these type of posts related to me, but at this stage of my life, they just don’t. Now I know what you may be thinking, “you’re single and bitter.” Well, you may be right to an extent LOL.

But seriously, let’s talk about what it’s like to be single in your early 20’s. For the most part, it’s fine. I have a lot of freedom at the moment. I come and go as I please. My friends are a huge part of my life, so I enjoy spending lots of time with them. Not to mention, I am able to put so much effort into blogging and what I’m passionate about.

I always tell my parents that I’m taking time to be selfish. Hear me out. Single life is quite possibly the last time you are able to focus solely on yourself. Once you’re in a relationship, you involve another person. It’s not just about you anymore. When you start a family, it becomes about your kids.

But there are times (like Valentine’s) where it does get to me. I’ll be 24 this year and I definitely pictured my life in a different place. I can probably blame a lot of that on comparison though. Seeing your old friends get married and start having kids is a weird feeling. I feel like society places a lot of pressure on women to get married and start a family. It’s almost like you’re trying to live by this imaginary timeline… graduate college by 21, get married by 25, have kids by 30. Okay, not exactly these ages, but I think you understand where I’m going, right?

Let me share a secret with you. This isn’t something I like to talk about often because it’s personally embarrassing. I’ve never had a boyfriend *gasp*. I’m not talking those boys you dated for like a week in middle school. I mean a real, serious relationship. Don’t get me wrong, the opportunity has 100% been there, but it never seemed right.

As far back as I can remember, I’ve had very high standards. I was just never interested in dating someone for the heck of it. To me, it just seemed like a waste of my time. Why invest in someone that you couldn’t picture a future with? I know not everyone will be able to relate to that. Some people date because it’s fun, and that’s fine! That’s just never been me. I was always the friend that third wheeled with my friends and their boyfriends haha (anyone with me??).

I have always made light of my dating situation. For those who know me in real life, I am a goofy person. I will do just about anything to make someone laugh. I began using my humor in a self deprecating way (like a defense mechanism). If I made fun of myself, then no one else could. It became the easiest way for me to cope. If I didn’t laugh about it, I knew I would just get upset. I remember friends asking me why I never dated anyone. I even had a guy friend ask if I was a lesbian because of it (I can’t make this up).

Not only was I already stressed about my lack of relationship, but I had other people adding to the stress. If it wasn’t friends, it was family members. “Casey, do you have a boyfriend?” “When are you going to start dating?” “Why don’t you date anyone?” “Don’t you want a boyfriend?” I couldn’t escape the constant questioning no matter what I did. I know to most people, these seem like simple questions, but when you’ve already asked yourself these questions over and over, it gets old.

Then, you start to wonder if something is wrong with you. When I dealt with my last wave of depression a couple years ago, this constantly crossed my mind.. ‘guys don’t want to date me, so clearly there is something wrong with me.’ Obviously that’s not the case, but it is a damaging thought that tries to convince you otherwise.

If you’re a fellow single lady (put your hand up lol), all I can tell you is do not settle. Don’t rush into anything just because you think you’re running behind schedule. Whether or not you can see it now, God has handpicked your other half and he’s even better than what you could dream up yourself. Maybe it sounds cheesy, but it’s true! Trust in His timing because things tend to happen when you least expect them.

As always, feel free to DM me or message me if you need to chat or vent! Love y’all!

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Basic Skincare Routine

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Do you ever find yourself in a funk for absolutely no reason? Well, that’s been me this entire month with blogging. I feel like this is a constant struggle of mine.. feeling uninspired and having major writer’s block. Since I have tried to introduce new content to the blog (one of my goals for 2018), I’ve felt like nothing seemed quite good enough.

However, I did have an idea in the back of my mind. Since I had overwhelming (amazing!) responses to my Instastory about skincare several weeks ago, I thought it would be the perfect topic. Initially, this is something I wanted to wait a little big longer before I covered, but I’ve already seen great results in the few weeks that I’ve used these products.. so why wait?

If you currently do not have a skincare routine because you feel overwhelmed by all the different products and brands out there, I can relate to you! That is why I, for the longest time, put off investing in skincare. I saw people who had a 10 step routine and wondered “is this necessary for me??” To be completely honest, I didn’t even understand what some of these products were even used for. Instead, I opted for being lazy and did nothing.

Last year, I had a spa day with some friends and we all got facials. While I had mine done, the esthetician asked me a little bit about my skin needs. I was pretty embarrassed because I knew I didn’t take care of my skin at all. I told her I was so overwhelmed by all the products on the market and didn’t know what exactly I needed. She was so helpful and told me because I was still very young, I really only needed a good cleanser, exfoliator, moisturizer and maybe a mask.

Fast forward to now and thankfully I have been proactive and put her advice to good use. I researched products that met my skin needs. I have combination/oily skin if that helps you at all. Remember, everyone’s skin is so different and skincare routines are very personal. Products that I swear by may not help you at all and vice versa! As I previously mentioned, I have been following this routine for 3-4 weeks.

  1. Neutrogena Makeup Wipes: I have used these for years and like to use them before any skincare products just to remove excess makeup. I am not attached to these specific wipes, so I would definitely be open to your suggestions!
  2. Kate Somerville Intensive Exfoliating Treatment: Let me start off by saying, yes this is expensive. I actually bought the travel size  so that I could try it out without making a huge commitment. Everyone is different when it comes to how much they exfoliate, but I personally do it twice a week – on Tuesdays and Thursdays before I use my cleanser. I read an article from a dermatologist that actually recommended exfoliating before washing your face. I will say that when I first began exfoliating, I broke out quite a bit. Once your skin adjusts to the product though, that should subside. I think this is one of the most important steps in my routine. My skin is much softer and appears to be glowing. This is said to work well with all skin types, so I would highly recommend it. I can’t tell you how many messages I got about this product alone and how much you guys loved it!
  3. Fresh Soy Face Cleanser: This product is a lot easier on your wallet, but there is still a mini size if you want to test it out first! I decided on this particular cleanser after looking at the best rated cleansers on Sephora’s website. This had thousands of great reviews, so I felt comfortable making the purchase. The first word that comes to mind when I think of this product is gentle. The gel based formula feels very refreshing on the skin and smells like cucumbers (to me!). Currently I am using this once a day (at nighttime), but would like to start using twice a day. It states that it can be used by all skintypes.
  4. Clinique Moisturizing Gel: One thing I was concerned about was a moisturizer. I get so oily that I was afraid to even use one at all, which is completely ridiculous! There are moisturizers created specifically for combination/oily skin types that give your skin the moisture it needs while managing your skin’s oils. When I googled “best moisturizers for oily skin,” this was the number one recommendation. It’s even won multiple beauty awards from Allure magazine! While this product is geared towards combination/oily skin, they do have a moisturizing lotion for dry skin (although the reviews aren’t as high). Again, I use this product every day. Right now, I am only using at nighttime and it is the last step in my routine. However, I am going to make an effort to use this before doing my makeup in the mornings.
  5. Origins Retexturizing Mask: Last but not least is my face mask. I remember I chose this based on the fact that the esthetician recommended clay based masks for my oily skin. I use this once a week on Mondays. If you follow me on Instagram, you should be well aware of this as I normally do a #maskMonday Instastory while watching the Bachelor LOL. I have noticed a huge difference in my skin’s texture and I think that can be attributed to a combination of this mask and my exfoliator. The smell is also enjoyable! If you have dry skin, I would not recommend. Reviews claimed the mask was too drying for dry skin types.

Okay, wow! This was a longer than normal post for me, but I think it’s important to be detailed when it comes to things like this. Please feel free to send me any messages if you have any further questions! I’m also looking into investing in a Clarisonic brush and will keep y’all updated if/when my routine changes!

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2018 Goals | Staying Motivated

TEDDY COAT: Free People

I’ll be the first to admit that I struggle with staying motivated, and that’s putting it nicely. Heck, even getting this post up has been a struggle!

I have so many goals and aspirations, but I tend to get overwhelmed easily. Sometimes, I just quit things altogether when they require too much effort. I’m to the point, though, where I’m sick of constantly making excuses for myself. If you want something, make it happen!

This is something that is evident in all areas of my life… blogging, my health, my relationships. I become so complacent and lackadaisical. I become content with mediocrity. It wasn’t always this way though. In high school, I was so focused and driven to the point of being annoying. I strived, scratch that, obsessed over perfection. I made one B during high school and bawled my eyes out if that tells you anything (yes, I was that girl lol).

Over the recent years, I’ve noticed a change in myself. Even my parents have made comments like “you used to be so driven, what happened to you?” I started to get embarrassed when I realized how everyone else seemed to have their lives together and I just seemed to be floating along with no destination in sight. Instead of motivating me to work even harder, I felt even more helpless.

Let’s fast forward to the now. 2018. Now, I’m not one for resolutions so much. If they work for you, that’s great! However, I kind of associate resolutions with something you start, but don’t finish. I feel like they carry the connotation of a complete lifestyle change, while goals are something you can strive towards. With that being said, I wanted to share some of my personal goals with you for the year!

Study the Bible

My faith is something I don’t talk about a lot on my blog. I tend to stay away from controversial subjects. However, I am open about the fact that I am a Christian. I am very guilty about not reading and studying the Word like I should. This year I’m wanting to set aside time devoted exclusively to do so.

Improve my Blog Content

Next to studying the Bible, this is my biggest goal this year. While I definitely posted more blog posts in 2017 than the previous year, most were just fashion/outfit posts. Don’t get me wrong, fashion is what I am passionate about. It’s what makes me feel most creative and inspired, but I got so hung up in what I loved that I didn’t take the time to consider my readers. If you follow me, chances are you love fashion. It’s basically all my Instagram feed consists of, but there’s more to life than just fashion.

A couple years ago, I wrote a post about my battle with depression and anxiety. To date, it is my most read and shared post. Why? Because it was raw. It was real. It was something people could relate to. Life is not perfect. I don’t want the people that follow me to think I live this perfect life (trust me, I don’t) just because I post perfectly captured moments.

That’s why this year, I decided to shift the focus of my content away from just fashion to include other topics. I want you guys to know the real me. I want to open up and become more personal (which is very hard for me!) My posts should be beneficial to you.. they should have a purpose.

If you love the fashion aspect of my blog/ Instagram, don’t worry.. those posts aren’t going anywhere! It’s just time for me to adapt and change. You cannot grow if you never change.

Establish a Good Skincare Regimen

Now if you watched my Instastory recently, you will see this is something I have already been spending time on. After Christmas, I researched products that met my skin needs and invested in some nice brands. Your skin is something you should really start taking care of at a young age, so I’m happy to say that I’ve finally taken the time to do so. If you are interested, I will do a blog post on skincare products that I recommend.

Workout 3-4 times a week

This probably sounds pretty unimpressive if you already work out lol but I have gotten out of any kind of workout routine that I used to have. This is something that is very attainable for me. I’m currently focusing on cardio, but would eventually like to implement weightlifting as well. Also, I am not the most knowledgeable person on this topic, so feel free to send me a message or DM if you have any kind of tips!

Eat Healthier

Pretty self-explanatory and goes hand in hand with my previous goal. Unfortunately for me, a lot of my social plans revolve around eating. There are always so many cool places to try out in Nashville, and I’m not the best at making healthy choices (I really like Taco Bell, I’m sorry). Even if it’s just small changes, I want to start being more mindful of what goes in my body.

 I hope you enjoyed my first post of 2018, even though it took forever for me to publish! This is a little different than I’m used to, but I wanted to just share some personal thoughts and goals with you all. Maybe this will help inspire you to focus on your own goals for the year!

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Sequin Skirt | What to Wear on NYE

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TOP: NAKD | SKIRT: Nordstrom (on sale!!) | HEELS: old (similar HERE) | EARRINGS: Sugarfix by Baublebar

sequin skirt

Photography: Southwell Photo

With NYE only a few days away, I thought what better time to show y’all this sequin skirt?! As soon as I saw it on Nordstrom’s website, all I could think about was New Year’s Eve! I mean, what goes together better than NYE and sequins?? Also I just have to acknowledge that it was only $49 when I bought it (which is still a great deal), but now it’s ONLY $29.40! I mean c’mon.. it would almost be a waste NOT to buy it, am I right?

All jokes aside, I knew I wanted all the attention on the sequin skirt, so I opted for minimal accessories and a basic black sweater. I think you could easily throw on a cute jacket if you wanted something a little extra! Funny enough, I will probably be having a very low key NYE with my best friends. Still, I couldn’t pass up on the opportunity to brainstorm outfit ideas for the evening haha. I hope you all have a fun and safe time whatever you get up to!

Since this is (most likely) my last post of 2017, I just wanted to take a moment to express my appreciation and gratitude to those of you who read my posts, follow me on Instagram, send me kind messages, etc. While it may not seem like a huge deal, it means a lot to me. In a world that is overly saturated with bloggers, it can be difficult to stand out and it is discouraging at times. However, over the past year, my content has gotten better, I’ve become more self confident, and I’ve made unexpected friendships. For all of this (and all of you reading), I’m grateful. I am so optimistic and excited about the opportunities to come in 2018!

Cozy Winter Outfit + Q&A

cozy winter outfit

SWEATER: Nordstrom | DENIM: Hudson (similar and on sale!) | BOOTIES: Sole Society | BEANIE: Nordstrom | EARRINGS: Sugarfix by Baublebar | HANDBAG: Louis Vuitton

Photography: Southwell Photo

I was tagged by my friend and fellow Nashville blogger @nataliekennedyblog to answer these winter/ holiday related questions! I’m going to challenge my friends @karli_willis @tannermmann and @southernfriedfashion to complete these questions as well!

1. What’s your favorite holiday tradition?

I would have to say my favorite holiday tradition is Christmas Eve with my parents. Every year, as far back as I can remember, we go out for a nice dinner and then come home and open gifts (just me, my mom, and dad). I know some of y’all are probably freaking out right now haha! Growing up, we had so many places to be on Christmas Day that there just wasn’t enough time (realistically) for us to do gifts in the morning. Celebrating on Christmas Eve just kind of stuck and that’s how it’s been ever since!

2. What is your favorite go-to lippies?

Okay this tends to change pretty frequently, but as of right now I have been wearing Lolita by Kat Von D like crazy! Another one of my favs for a few years now is Rebel by MAC – it can look a little scary in the tube, but it is such a gorgeous color on!

3. What is your favorite winter scent? (perfume, candles, etc.)

I don’t tend to change up my perfume for the winter, but I love candles! I feel like there is one that immediately comes to my mind and it’s Twisted Peppermint from Bath & Body Works. For some people, it’s going to be too strong, but I absolutely love it and it’s just a go-to for me in the winter!

4. What’s your go-to winter fashion trend?

This is really hard for me because there are a lot of cute winter trends! It would either be between beanies (like I styled with this super cozy winter outfit!) or wearing white jeans in the winter! Here is an outfit I wore recently with white jeans.

5. What is your favorite holiday movie?

So easy. Hands down Home Alone. No competition. That’s another tradition of my family’s is that we watch at least the first one (sometimes the second one too) around Christmas. I still almost cry laugh every time!

6. What’s your favorite holiday tune?

My all time-fav would have to be All I Want for Christmas is You by Mariah Carey! It’s just a classic to me and always puts me in the best mood when I listen to it!

7. Do you prefer to travel or stay home?

I love traveling in general, but for the holidays I like being in Tennessee. Sometimes we do go to Florida because I have quite a bit of family that lives there, but for the most part I prefer to be at home. (EDIT: okay funny story, I wrote this before I found out I was going to New York.. but don’t worry, I am VERY excited!)

8. What is your favorite winter activity?

This is probably going to sound so boring, but I honestly love just riding around at night with a hot coffee looking at Christmas lights. I also love ice skating, but I don’t get to do it often.

9. What is your favorite winter beauty product?

Do spray tans count? lol

10. Love or hate the snow?

We rarely get a good snow here, so I love it! Although after a few days, it does start to get old.

11. What is one item on your wishlist?

I honestly didn’t want much this year, but I did ask for plane tickets to New York.. maybe Santa will come through for me 😉 (EDIT: also answered this before I found out about the trip!)

12. Favorite holiday treat?

Hmmm this is hard because I’m a big snacker around the holidays, but I really love homemade cookies!

13. Do you finish your holiday shopping before December or are you a last minute shopper?

LOL.  Last minute shopper for sure. I still haven’t bought a single gift yet and I’m stressing!!

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